- What’s wrong with me?
- Why can’t I feel motivated like I should?
- Why am I not happy like I should be? I mean, everything is good, really. My family is healthy, I’m healthy, I’ve got a good job with a decent salary.
- Why can’t I feel the purpose and meaning like “everybody else” does? I’m unfulfilled though I shouldn’t be!
These thoughts were constantly in my head for years, as I moved further away from the sense of fulfillment in the traditional job I had, trading my time for money. And it really didn’t matter what I was doing – I felt the same deep sense of “what’s wrong with me”.
Even when I found my clear purpose and meaning in life – the value I am providing to the world – I still wasn’t happy, feeling that sense of absolute fulfillment in the jobs and assignments I had.
Can you relate?
Mixing up the purpose and meaning with the circumstances I had created for myself
I grew up knowing ONLY the traditional way of making a living. The Internet wasn’t even born, you know. That’s how long ago it was. My parents were teachers, and all other adults I knew except for two, were working the 9 to 5. (And those two that didn’t were running their own businesses working even longer hours – like 7 am – 8 pm!)
So, naturally, this is what I was programmed to do as well. No harm done there. That’s just the way it was back then. And honestly the traditional economy is thousands of year old. No wonder it’s what I and most people still relate to!
But I think I was mixing up the lack of purpose and meaning with actually being trapped in the 9 to 5 itself. I thought I didn’t like what I was doing, though I’d found my purpose, but it was in fact the circumstances in which I was practicing my purpose that didn’t resonate with me anymore.
Breaking free from traditional thinking
I’d say most humans strive for a feeling of belonging and fitting in. More or less. Not saying everybody does it consciously, but unconsciously I think we all do.
I was. I am. And that’s why the experience of having lost the ability to fit in with the rest of the group was so tough to handle. I was even afraid I wasn’t ever going to be able to support myself properly again. I was thinking:
- What do I do now?
- I’ve got to win the lottery!
- Haven’t I got an unknown relative somewhere that can testament their fortune to me?
- Can my kids “make it” in the world and support their mother?”
Yepp. All those crazy things.
Finding the right circumstances for my purpose and meaning
Now, I’m really happy about my circumstances. I’m my own boss, growing my own online business, writing my own paycheck. And what really got me confident in the path I’m on is the tribe that found within the SFM training (link to free webinars in case you want to check it out).
Now I’m again surrounded by like minded people. I belong!
And there are lots of us! Lots of us out there that are fully functioning human beings. We just don’t want to live our lives in the traditional way. There’s nothing wrong with me or anyone else in the tribe. We’ve just struggled a bit before realizing we’re different and want something different from life. And now we’re getting it.
I feel so relieved!
Some final words
Are your struggling too?
If you’re in the same situation, I’m telling you – There’s nothing wrong with you! Ok? There’s nothing wrong with you. Period.
You’re just not in a space where your purpose and meaning can prosper. So the question is, what will you do about it? You can do something about it, you know. The question is what? Which alternative routes do you see? And are you ready to work your way down some of them to transform your circumstances, maybe for ever?
Well, listen – I hope you’re finding your way! Start somewhere. All I know is that I think you should start TODAY! I’m here if you want to chat about it. And of course I’ve got some hot tips if you stick around!